Why are we always looking for a friend to travel with? And how many times we cancelled a trip because one of our friend or a family member couldn’t make it?
I’ve never have to convince myself that solo was the only way for me to go because I am maybe a selfish person but I’ve thought it could be possible to find a person to travel with me at the exact same moment I could travel.
So, I booked a one-way flight to Melbourne during the Summer 2008 and start to save money during a couple of months.
Here’s everything important to me that explains why I so adamantly claim all women should travel solo at least once in their lives…
Solo Travel Makes you More Confident
If you’re lacking in self-confidence, it can have serious effects on your livelihood. Without confidence in yourself you are likely to question your decisions thus being indecisive, seek reconfirmation in others, and never follow your own decisions and life path. Solo travel will not only help you gain self confidence ‘back in the real world’, it will leave you to feel more confident than you ever thought capable. You will walk to the beat of your own drum because you have seen the world, conquered challenges on your own, and learned to rely on yourself and yourself only.
You Gain Independence
You will invariably learn to solely depend upon yourself and yourself only. When you solely rely on yourself, there is nothing anyone can do to rattle you and nothing can be taken from you because even if you were stripped back to a bare nothing, you would have survival instincts. You’re used to being alone with your own thoughts for days and weeks at a time, you’re used to making do with what you have, and you’re used to making decisions for yourself.
You break down the idea of a ‘comfort zone’
Forget the days of comfort zones and those little people lingering around your ears telling you what you should or shouldn’t do. A solo female traveller no longer cares about looking her best 24/7. A solo female traveller doesn’t rely on others for their opinion, nor does she seek to be validated.
« Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn. »
– C. S. Lewis
« I am not the same having seen the moon on the other side of the world. »
– Mary Ann Radmacher
There will be ups and downs and sideway moments that, at the time, will feel like a roller coaster you didn’t realise you weren’t sure you wanted to go on. On the rare occassion where something does go wrong, you will become more and more suited to dealing with issues because you are over time becoming more patient and understanding.
Restore your faith in human kindness
As mentioned earlier, things can and will go wrong. But when they do, more often than not your faith in human kindness will be restored. I can’t tell you how many times I have been offered help by a stranger!
Discover yourself, love yourself
Travelling solo as a woman will not only give you confidence and independence, it will also teach you to love yourself. As women, we tend to adopt a tendency to compare ourselves with other women, perhaps even competing with them. This is not in any way healthy, nor will it help you or other women in life. So why solo travel? You soon learn that there are so many different people out there in the world, different body shapes, different personalities, different hair colours, skin colours…
You Learn what is important in your life
You don’t just learn what is important in life, but what is important in YOUR life. You might hate solo travel – that’s okay, you have learned that you are not someone who loves to be alone and perhaps you find you are happiest when you have human affection. You might hate lethargic beach days and miss your busy corporate life and by the time you get home you have learned to appreciate the Monday-Friday ‘daily grind’. You might love the sense of freedom that comes with travelling the world and find a way to do travel whenever you can. Whatever be the case, you will learn what is important to YOU.
Most importantly…. You free yourself
Women who travel solo – for whatever reason, for whatever they take away from it, for whoever they meet along the way, for whatever they miss back home, will experience a change that is simply indescribable. It isn’t an adjective or a word found in the dictionary…. it is a feeling of freedom. Of discovery. Of self.
Thanks World Of Wanderlust !
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Cécile lives in Chicago though is originally from southern France. She’s an avid traveler and is always excited by new adventures. After living in Ireland, Australia and Canada, Cécile is an advocate of having a routine but not staying comfortable for too long.